Personal Add...

…Every now and then, I take the focus off fashion and share snippets about my LIFE…
{This IS a blog about how my LIFE & my STYLE collide}

That said, this is my take on single-hood.

A Mock Personal Add:

HI! I’m Tammie

I am 5’3 230 pound bold and beautiful woman.

Yes I am a little chunky, but I have GREAT style and taste, so I will look good on any man’s arm.

I’m not one of those girls with low self-esteem or one whom feels she NEEDs a man to function.

I’ve been single on and off for a few months so I have experienced the best of both worlds.
 I would best describe myself as a person who understands what a good and healthy relationship could add to one's life.
... And so begins my journey to greatness in this facet.

What I am looking for is someone who fits in with my goals in life.

Someone who won’t be intimidated by my success because they are driven in their own pursuits.

Someone who I can trust to lead my (future) family.

Someone who shares the same values which I do and who is looking for a long-term relationship.

What I have to offer…

Exactly what I am asking for!

I am also passionate, genuine, creative, loving, giving (to the right person) and intelligent, just to name a few.

All of my other qualities, good and bad, you’ll have to find out when you get to know me.

Signed,

Preparing to find my King

A Mock Therapy Session:

I did a mock therapy session with a classmate.

I just wanted to process some of the changes I’m making in my personal life.

That is, weeding out toxic and co-dependent relationships so I can find TRUE happiness within the relationship I am building with myself.

We, my therapist and I, came to the consensus that I should find two constants, which I am not willing to change for a relationship.

She helped me come to the conclusion that I have changed parts of myself in each relationship to make them work.

What about me?

What am I NOT willing to sacrifice?

Some things that I have given are:

My self respect

My time

My body (although in some instances I didn’t mind this all that much)

My beliefs in how relationships should work

That’s IT!

That’s one constant!

I am not willing to change some things about how relationships should work.

I want to be pursued for the right reasons.

I want chivalry.

I want him to pay for the first date.

I want him to like me enough to wait for physical intimacy.

I want phone calls instead of texts.

I want him to listen to me.

I want movie nights and dinner dates and to meet his parents.

I want him to be there for my graduation.

I want intimacy.

So that’s one of my constants…I am NOT willing to change my view on how relationships should be. What I've come to know about men is they eventually get to that point with a woman when they are into her.

So…

Let the waiting begin.